No matter what books you read, what courses you go on, what seminars you attend or who you are influenced by, nobody can decide this for you.
If they say they can then, then start running.
Yes people can help and encourage you, but the only person that can make the final decision is you and only you. People can help you help yourself, but you must take part in your own rescue operation.
How great is that? I mean seriously how important do you now feel that regardless of your present situation, you are now the commander of your own army, the captain of your own ship and the architect of the future that lies before you.